Shadows...Bringing light into the darkness.

Shadows are an absence of light. They aren’t “planned”; they just happen.

Shadows from our past or present that we experience in the form of: anxiety, depression, or the need to be in control of everything can cause a trajectory of shadows to others around you.

For parents, unintentionally, these shadows (when not worked on) can create a generational curse for your children as they learn to process hard moments from what they witness. When in conflict, do you model healthy communication (active and reflective listening: seeking to understand the other before you seek to be understood, patience, calm, a priority for relationship over “being right”)? Are you giving grace to mistakes made and using the opportunity to use the experience to grow in relationship?

Or, do you: shut down, yell, project anxiety/anger/frustration? We often will see similar patterns in our children—especially teenagers. This is also true in adult relationships as well.

To break this cycle of shadows, the first step is self-reflection and recognition of the shadow. Name the shadow (feeling/emotion) and do the work on the it. Bring light and project that light and love to others around you.

If you need help in your relationships, please reach out: misti@chosenhopecounseling.com.

I would be honored to work with you.